it happens every year to varying degrees
sneaking up in plain view, subtly marked on my calendar
written only in pencil as if i could erase it at will
the anniversary of learning that not all rules apply
parents don’t always die first
i have to remind myself that i am not unique
grandma, burdened with a disease that stole memories
but not her grief, cried out each day for her lost son
someone took my baby, where is my baby, give him back to me
my aunt sharing memories of her baby boy being brought home
in a very small box in the back of the car, long miles of silence
the afflictions are irrelevant, the stillness of our sons is not
we believed the rules would apply, the rules should always apply
all we really control is our response, all else is smoke and mirrors
he carried your casket alone, standing tall, he did not stumble
i walked behind, barely standing at all beneath the weight of my grief
we somehow set the pace for lonely, singular walks through dark valleys
delivered to babyland, like they thought it might lighten the mood
it was not, nor is it now, a rollercoaster found at amusement parks
my sadness no longer resides there, unfulfilled dreams have all grown up
that guttural sound emanating from the hole left behind is still here, now muffled
the years have covered it with surprising laughter, wrapped it with fresh hope
love from all sides, memories of you, soften the edges and bring you to me in flashes
the smiling baby whom I loved, others barely had chance to become smitten with
life can be so unexpected that to us, mere mortals, it appears cruel and unfated
especially on a saturday morning when we are trying to pretend that all the rules apply
our hearts grasping and reaching out for what might have been and coming up empty
September 12th, 2009 at 3:40 pm
Jaymie Alzheimrs is as very horrible disease.
One of my friends’ mom has it and it is problem .
On top of it…her cancer has returned.
Its very tragic.
Hugs and love to you
With warm regards
Shraddha
September 12th, 2009 at 5:31 pm
It is a horrible disease. You watch them die piece by piece…finally saying goodbye to only remnants.
September 12th, 2009 at 4:43 pm
there are no words, J…
*hug*
D
September 12th, 2009 at 5:32 pm
hugs are good
September 12th, 2009 at 5:48 pm
*Hug*
There is nothing I can say. Nothing.
September 12th, 2009 at 10:12 pm
Nothing to say but thank you for letting me know you are here.
September 13th, 2009 at 10:37 pm
It’s hard to write something tender and hopefully when your sobbing. Will send an email dear heart.
September 14th, 2009 at 7:57 am
thank you sweet sara
September 14th, 2009 at 2:41 pm
I can only echo what others have already said. I have no words, only arms to wrap you in and squeeze, trying to transfer some of my strength to your heart.
September 14th, 2009 at 4:07 pm
My heart is strengthened from this amazing outpouring, thank you.
September 14th, 2009 at 10:05 pm
Oh Jaymie, I’m so sorry.
September 14th, 2009 at 10:40 pm
Thank you, it is part of who I am now.
September 15th, 2009 at 7:13 pm
hugs dear jaymie. hugs and thoughts and warm wishes.
September 15th, 2009 at 8:04 pm
my favorite things.